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Just Grow Up Already, Mean Girls!
Whenever I am around adults who are being mean girls and having drama I just want to yell, “grow up!” But I try to resist that urge because when it’s me having the drama, I don’t want someone to yell that at me! Ha!
Somewhere along the line, we got it in our heads that being a “mean girl” was only a teenage problem. But if you have spent any time around large groups of adult women, you have probably come to realize that the “mean girl” epidemic isn’t just a high school problem.
I would venture to say the problems are little bit different and are mostly centered around gossip and comparison.
Think about the backlash you get when you decide to parent differently than most. It can be scary to stray from the herd.
Oh and I have talked before about the relationship between prayer and gossip and the very thin line between the two.
Instead of perpetuating the insanity, I have been determined to take a different approach.
How to Deal With Grown Up Mean Girls:
1. Don’t Gossip!
Venting is the same as gossip.
“Avoid Godless chatter, because those who indulge in it will become more and more ungodly.” (2 Timothy 2:16)
2. Check Yourself First!
What we don’t like (or are offended by) in someone else may actually be the very problem we have with ourselves. We must be willing to repent of our own sins before pointing the finger at others.
“You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eyes.” (Matthew 7:5)
3. Pray! Pray! Pray!
Pray for the person who has wronged you. As the saying goes, “hurt people, hurt people.”
“Answer me when I pray, oh God, my defender! When I was in trouble, you helped me. Be kind to me now and hear my prayer.” (Psalm 4:1)
4. Overflow with Grace!
Often sin, which is normally at the heart of conflict; is multi-layered. The surface issue is just the tip of the iceberg. The easiest way for me to forgive others, is to remind myself of all that the Lord has forgiven in me.
“Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the LORD forgave you.” (Colossians 3:13)
5. Let it Go!
Once you walk away from conflict–don’t keep revisiting it. Do not second-guess what you said or didn’t say. Don’t re-examine old wounds–release it all to the LORD.
“Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice. Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another as God, in Christ, forgave you.” (Ephesians 4:31-32)
Practicing grace and forgiveness is the best picture the world can see of Jesus’s abundant mercy and love for his broken children.
I hope you’re not hearing me say that I am perfect and that I am a good little Christian girl who never screws up or makes bad decisions. I am a broken individual who is determined to do better, that’s all.
How do you deal with mean girls as a grown-up? Or are you a mean girl yourself…because aren’t we all at some point? Leave me a comment and let me know.