If you’re like me, then you often find yourself saying the same thing all day long.
Get off that…Stop doing that…Don’t touch that…Don’t say that…Come here!
You get the point.
I go through spurts of following parenting books and trying all of the different methods. But I’ve never been very good on the follow through and I am a sucker for second chances. I don’t mean to come off as wishy-washy, but I think my “trying-all-the methods” method is really confusing my kids.
What I realized recently during my prayer time, is that I’ve been ignoring the most obvious parenting book out there.
I turn to scripture for pretty much everything else in my life, but I have yet to seek guidance for parenting. So I’m making a change. And I have a plan.
A simple and easy to follow plan.
Reasons to use the Bible to Correct Your Children—
- Scripture points them to the law of Christ, not just our rules.
- Scripture speaks to their hearts, not just their behaviors.
- Scripture imparts grace & kindness, not condemnation.
(I copied these three points in my journal a while back, and I didn’t note where they came from. I’m 99% sure I did not write them. After a brief search for the author, I gave up—I’d love to give credit where it is due, so if you wrote this or you know who did–please let me know!)
I’m going to take my children’s most common misbehavior
and assign a scripture to them. A Biblical truth, people! How can they argue with that? I will post them up in the kitchen where everyone can see them. (As a bonus—we’ll all have these scriptures memorized in no time!)
I will also have a consequence assigned to each of these behaviors that require correction so that there is no waffling on my part.
The kids will know—“when I do X, then Y will happen.”
And for that matter, I will know, too!
The consequences will range from reciting a verse to an hour in bedroom and a loss of privileges. I hesitate to put anything concrete here because different punishments work with different kids. Also, if they continue to make the same bad decision over and over again—the punishment should get more serious, right?
So obviously I have some more praying to do on this subject, but I figured this would be a good start. Instead of telling the kids that I don’t like something, I can point them to the Bible for proof.
Behaviors that require correction:
- Disobeying & defiance
- Being unkind (excluding others, saying mean things, hitting)
- Telling lies
- Not sharing
Here is what I came up with as a starting point.
Let me know how it’s working for your family!