9 Qualities of an Amazing Small Group Leader

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Being a small group leader is such an awesome experience, but it requires a certain skill set. Check out these 9 qualities of an amazing small group leader.

When I was first asked to lead a small group, I was terrified. It seemed like I wasn’t qualified for such a task. Part of me felt like I didn’t have enough “Bible-knowledge” to make a difference in another person’s life and I that I was too broken to be a good enough example.

The other part of me likes a challenge.

So I took it on—jumped right in—and I’ve never looked back.

I’m not saying I have it all figured out or anything—in fact, I’m still just as broken as I was when I was first asked to lead, but now I have come to realize that it is in the brokenness that real growth and bonding can happen.

When I can look at a sister in Christ who is crying because she feels like a failure, I can cry with her and say, “me too…”

There is some true honest-to-goodness power that happens in those moments, people.  We aren’t alone, and that’s why I LOVE small groups, because it’s a living example of doing life with other people—the way it’s supposed to be lived.

“How good and pleasant it is when God’s people live together in unity!”   -Psalm 133:1

But leadership is a calling, and it isn’t for everyone—

If you’re one of those people who is wondering if small group leadership is for you then just keep reading–

9 Qualities of an Amazing Small Group Leader:

Good leaders have a contagious outlook—

Their excitement for the study gets everyone excited.

Good leaders are learners—

They are equally as impacted by the study and anxious to see what God has for them—as well as the group

Good leaders prepare—

Coming to group prepared is also contagious. Have you prayed, picked out discussion topics, and chosen relevant scriptures?

Good leaders put out the welcome mat—

They keep the environment friendly and free from cliques. They happily welcome new visitors—even non-believers.

Good leaders value stories—

When members feels safe to share their stories, it will encourage others to share as well. Sometimes, the study can wait so fellowship can blossom.

Good leaders appreciate the seasons of life—

Members may come and go depending on their stage in life. It happens.  No hard feelings should be kept and nobody should leave on bad terms.

Good leaders balance growth and community—

Focus should not only be put on the numbers or only on developing relationships with current members. There is a delicate balance that needs to occur so the focus can be equally put on both.

Good leaders are available—

Group leadership goes far beyond the meeting. Are you able to respond quickly to texts or late night phone calls? Can you dedicate time to pray for these members?

Good leaders are humble—

Someone who doesn’t make it all about themselves.


And on humility—

By creating this list, I’m not saying that I perform perfectly at every turn—quite the opposite! I haven’t mastered any of these categories, I’m still trying and striving, but I love the ladies in my group and I have come to feel responsible for them in a way. It’s a really unexpected feeling—but a sweet one indeed.


Any small group leaders out there?  What would you add to the list?


Being a small group leader is such an awesome experience, but it requires a certain skill set. Check out these 9 qualities of an amazing small group leader.


  1. Aimee Imbeau says:

    This is a great list! I have an especially soft spot for small groups. My husband became a believer through one! So, I appreciate that you addressed welcoming everyone – including everyone. Even unbelievers. This is so important!

    Thanks for linking up with Grace and Truth.

  2. Hallie says:

    Good leaders have to be able to handle conflict and conflicting-personalities in the group. It takes grace and love to lead well.

    This is a wonderful list! If Jesus did it that’s what needs to be on the list! He is our leader who models leadership the best!

    • Ally says:

      Yes! You are so right!

      Sometimes you get a personality that can impact the whole group–sometimes in a bad way. It’s so hard to know how to handle that.

      Thanks for visiting!

    • Ally says:

      Interesting perspective–and something I always struggle with.

      I mean, a leader should have it all figured out, right? But I so don’t! Vulnerability is hard!!

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